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This isn't a flame. A flame would be stupid. It's your blog, and anyway I'm too tired to be angry. Nor is this intended to be patronising, so if anything seems that way, I heartily apologize. I dislike sounding patronising.

I... think I pity you. If you let go of some of your hate, maybe your life wouldn't be so awful that you'd mention killing yourself.

Just so you know, homosexuality isn't a choice. Nor is it a temporary state. It's not even a behaviour. It's the sexual attraction the same sex as you, and little to no attraction to the opposite sex. It's not something you can do anything about. One wonders at your ire. What they do doesn't affect you unless you allow it to affect you.

Why don't you believe their partnerships will last? They often do. Why wouldn't they? They last just as well as heterosexual relationships. Because those relationships are built upon love. One can only assume that what you mean here is "love of any kind does not last". The idea that heterosexual and homosexual love are different is inaccurate.

If one of your friends was a lesbian, she would not hit on you. Why? Because she knows you are not a lesbian. Would a guy friend of yours hit on you if he knew you weren't attracted to him? Of course not. The same thing applies. And the fact that you seem so scared of this makes me wonder about you. It's true that a fair number of the rabidly homophobic are themselves repressing homosexual tendencies. So if you don't want people to think you're gay, maybe you should let go of the hate and move on. If nothing else, you're probably giving yourself an ulcer.

Then again, you just had a big rant, which I imagine was cathartic. So it's probably quite wrong for me to sit here saying "now, you have issues". You know you have issues, you mentioned it in your post. You're just setting them out, which is cathartic, and helpful, and I really hope it did set you at ease somewhat. I may not understand people disliking homosexuals, but that's their look-out. Hatred concerns me, for the safety and sanity of all involved. But perhaps that was just the nature of your post (being a rant, and therefore by its nature rather over-the-top and angry).

At any rate. You believe what you believe, and that is fine. This is your blog and you can post what you wish. I know many Christians who are also gay, and I think it is a beautiful thing. I don't imagine Jesus would have a problem with it. He seemed like a very loving person. But I think perhaps one needs to start with loving oneself.

I can't say I understand the way you feel, or the fact that you seem to want people to do things the same way you do. I value diversity, I value differences, and I've never met an unpleasant gay person. I am a straight woman with a few gay people among my group of friends. They are all wonderful people. So you can understand (I hope) that I feel concern and, yes, I feel a little hurt when I see such anger and prejudice against so large a group of people. I mean... some of my favourite actors are gay. Stephen Fry, a man without compare. Ian McKellin. Oscar Wilde. Wonderful people who have created wonderful things. Why is it so bad that they're attracted to people of the same sex? It's not like they can do anything about it, anyway.

I hope you read all of this message, because at the beginning I was rather "you are wrong!" and really I am just trying to communicate concern. Hate breeds hate. If you spew hatred, people will not look at you with kindness. I don't want to be patronising, either. So if that's the way you really want to be, fine. I mean, you did say in your title that gays should not read this, which suggests to me that you're not the sort of person that would insult a homosexual in public. I respect that.

Bah. I don't even know what I'm trying to say exactly. Just... I am saddened. I don't like prejudice. Anyway, if you want to flame me, I won't reply to the flames. This is your blog so I suppose you're entitled, here I am just barging in when I probably should have just stayed away. I just... well, I think that in order to lessen prejudice, we should inform, and spread understanding. I tried to inform. And... I hope if one of your friends is gay, you'll still love her. (As a friend.)

Wow. Sanguina might not be willing to flame you, but I am: Congratulations on being ignorant. Your "theory" is faulty and goes directly against established science. Fail.

Go read something.

hmm *nods* I didn't expect the long comment....it's good yes....