If they are against your morals... is it against your morals?
Okay I came to a realization tonight and it damn near brought me to tears. Recently my best friend Deidra was cheated on by her now ex boyfriend Vaughn. Me, her, and my boyfriend Jamie (Vaughn has been his friend for years) were all pissed at him. Tonight I found out the Deidra forgave him and so is my boyfriend. I won't and at first my boyfriend was mad at him for saying I would never forgive him for what he did to Deidra. He told me "I said the same things about Tracey and you got mad!".
To update everyone, Tracey is my ex best friend. I was friends with Tracey for 6 years, we used to be unseperable. Then Sophomore year things changed, she started dating more and more often and she cheated on half of her boyfriends. At one point she dated someone who was a friend to both of us, and she cheated on him. That was probably 2 years ago. Since then she has gotten worse and is still a cheat and now does drugs, she lives in a differant town now because her mom beat her and in this town Tracey is the biggest thing, every guy wants her and every girl wants to be her friend. Tracey doesn't call me, text me, she just... forgets I exist I guess.
I thought about what my boyfriend said and I replied. Yeah I did get mad but I am done with her. She has proved more then once that she doesn't care about me anymore, everything else is more important to her. I always put our friendship first and that is why when she cheated on our friend I didn't tell him cause I had promised her I wouldn't tell. I should have realized then that friendship meant nothing to her. I hate people who cheat but my friendship with her was so cherished by me that I couldn't tell her how stupid she was and I couldn't realize she doesn't care by friendship or she wouldn't have treated our friend like trash. Her morals... her character... who she had become went against everything I believe in and yet I stayed friends with her cause I hoped she would change. Cheaters don't change... and if I am against cheaters I shouldn't be friends with them.
So to sum things up. I won't forgive Vaughn. I forgave Tracey hoping she would change her ways and she didn't and I stayed friends with her and she just ended up worse. I won't let Vaughn think that cheating is something that can be forgived.
Apparently Jamie understands...
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