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First of all, I cannot tell you how to have sex. I cannot tell you what positions guarantee the best orgasm, or what kinds of toys would be right for you, since I am a virgin and everyone is different.

However, what I am here to actually talk about is your romantic LIFE, not your actions.

"Am I ready?" my answer is I don't know, are you? This is one question YOU have to answer for yourself. You decide when it's right; it's like a first kiss. It could happen in a week of dating, or it could happen in a year. If it feels right to you, go for it!

Comfort with your romantic life is VERY important to happiness. Are YOU comfortable having sex? Is your partner? If you or your partner are just not that interested in having any type of sex (Oral, a**l, or vaginal), then this needs to be talked about. The best thing in a relationship is communication. If you were pressured, you need to sit down and have a serious talk with your partner. DO NOT let yourself be bullied into doing something YOU don't want to do. If they continue to try and pressure you into doing ANYTHING you don't want to do with the "If you love me you'll do this" or the "I'll leave you if you don't do this" tactics, they are only spelling out bad news. They don't deserve you if they can't respect you. A great quote for this post is "Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me." This goes VERY well with what I'm talking about today. You CANNOT let yourself be pushed around by someone who more than likely has a tendency to cheat and lie.

Sparking your romantic life up. Now, I can't really give any personal tips, seeing as how five months of dating *really* shouldn't need a sparking to begin with, but watching Oprah, Dr. Phil, and Elle have left me with some great tips to give to the boys reading (I know you're out there...). Girls, try these too!

Be spontaneous. Every girl I know well loves a random smooch; everyone loves a random night where our man suggests we go out to dinner at some snazzy restaurant. Don't go too over the top with these, though, or we'll think you're up to something...;p

Try new things. This doesn't necessarily apply only to your sex life. Don't jog much? Suggest going on a run one morning. If your lady asks "Are you suggesting I'm fat?" simply say "No, I thought it would be a nice change of pace." and leave it at that. Seriously, it's not a good way to start out the day if you get into a fight over something taken out of context.

Try cooking a nice meal. It doesn't have to be a gorgeous, five-star meal or anything, but it's a nice thing to do. It really is. My guy made MALTS one time, and I was smiling nonstop for a week. It was the thought that counted. It's just like jewelry, flowers, candy, or something homemade that's falling apart.

Flowers. Whether or not we like to admit it, flowers make us feel like a princess. I've gushed all over the place from getting a carnation from the student council boys because they decided that "every girl should get a flower on Valentine's Day". I've never forgotten that day. smile

Well, that's all I have to say for now! I will be sure to edit with more information about a healthy sex life!