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So the other day I got into an arguement with my friend about relationships. Yeah, I shouldn't take her seriously because she just got her heart all stomped on but I hate when I hear people say certain things.

We all go through times where we want to never experience love again. You felt like you've got all the happiness, sadness, and anger as well as other emotions out of it from your life that you don't need it anymore. To say that you'll never love again is a silly thought because we, as well as yourself, all know that you have no control over the next person or persons you'll fall in love with.

Instead of just seeking love, why don't you look at why your relationships never work out.
Is it because you are closed-minded? Maybe you are distant or maybe you are so scared to put yourself in a relationship because you have a fear of getting hurt again. Yeah, it could be just the other person who screws up everything by cheating or whatever but instead of just banning love, why not be more cautious?

Now I'm not saying you should be so cautious that you'll fret over every little thing.
You just need to be mindful of the things that have hurt you before. A lot of times of what's wrong with relationships is the lack of communication. If you and that person don't talk very well or you or the other keep holding back feelings, nothing is ever going to go forward. Just because you're afraid of hurting someone's feelings, which is noble, is very stupid. Who knows that if you told that person that the outcome might be different and will actually make you both stronger than tear you apart.

Another thing that bothers me is if you're not serious, or even want a relationship.... Just be honest and don't break that person's heart by doing some s**t you know you shouldn't be doing.

I know I can rant and rave about what's right and what's wrong, but I wanted to get this anger out. = w =

Ja Ne ~ !