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I don't know which I hate more. Being in love? or the Navy?

My boyfriend is signed up for the Navy and I knew this when we started dating. One of the things I asked him when we first met was, "What are your plans since you've graduated?" and he told me that he was signed up to go to the Navy. I supported him, then when we started dating, I began to hate it. Not dating him, the Navy. I kept my hatred of the Navy away from him for a long time... I kept it from him until he got his ship date. August 20th... On our 10 month anniversary, he is going into boot camp....I wanted to cry when I found that out...
He keeps forcing me to let my emotions out, which is hard. What do I tell him? Don't go? I couldn't do that. It would be too controlling. I refuse to control peoples' lives like that. He told me, "Tell me not to go and I won't." But I told him he had to. If not for money for college, than for his family. They don't have much and the military would be the best thing to happen to them.
He keeps telling me that he hates the fact that he swept me off my feet, just to leave me....
Now that we're together, I can't imagine how I managed to go 7 months without him... I constantly have nightmares ever since we found out his ship date. I woke up from a nightmare and he was right there saying, "It's okay. I'm here. You're safe. It's okay." Then I started to cry in his arms. He asked what was wrong and I told him that I realized he wouldn't be around to comfort me anymore. When he's gone, he won't be there to tell me everything is "okay." I'm not okay with this...
While I was visiting him in NY, the Navy chief stopped by to talk to him and he saw me. He came over to me and said, "Are you his girlfriend?" I nodded and he said, "So you're who we're stealing him from?" I nod again and he continued, "I'm so sorry. I really am. I know how hard it can be. Do me a favor and join a support group." I stood up and left. I couldn't take it anymore. I ran upstairs and cried, angry.
I don't know what to do....